Please yourself before you please others

A lot of the time we care too much what people think of us. We pay attention to our fashion, the songs we listen to, churches we attend and sometimes even the way we speak and think.

These are all mechanisms to either get someone to notice us or accept us or be worthy of their time and praise. We even go as far as compromising ourselves in friendships and relationships.

Firstly, you are just as important as the other person or people. Accept yourself first and focus on who you are and where you are going. Do you like corduroys rather than hipsters? Well wear them because the smile that emanates from you when you are being yourself cannot be compared to the cheap imitation you try to employ.

Secondly, people can only accept the real you. The mask even on a psychopath eventually crumbles. I remember someone tell me “hey Nana you are putting on weight. Anymore weight and we won’t be friends”. Weight does not reduce your personality. I decided I was not willing to keep this up this charade and even though it hurt it was important and necessary for me to remove said ‘friend’ from my life because my happiness tops all else.

Thirdly you can only be worth being around if you love your own company. If you can’t stand yourself you cannot expect others to stand you.

Last but not least if your true colours are not good enough for others but make you happy then those people are not worthy of your time or effort. You have only one life. Enjoy it by being the real vibrant lovely person you were created to be.