Stop it right there....Just stop! You know what I mean by shady. You standing there acting like you dont have a clue what I am on about but ladies you know.
Example of shady creature:
Sara been dating her man for a couple of months now. They have moved to the next stage of their relationship and Mr sweetheart is a charmer. He brings the roses, picks her up from work and calls her regularly.
Everything has been perfect so she thought it was about time they started staying over at each others places for a night or two at a time.
Mr sweetheart gets calls at 3 in the morning- It is his friend he says. First time Sara brushed it aside. Second time he stayed over, he had her in his arms and was on the phone. When he hang up she asked who was calling him at such an ungodly hour and he says 'Baby it was my ex. You know her and I is still bredrins like init!'
'Your ex? Why you still talking to her whilst you got me in your bed? Do you not have any shame? You disgust me!'
'Baby you are overreacting! Are you listening to yourself? You sound ridiculous! Why do you do this to yourself? I even said she is my ex but here you are ranting and raving. Jesus! Women!' WIth that he rolls on his side and leaves Sara feeling somewhat abandoned wondering what the hell jsut happened!
What is wrong with this scenario?
A good man who is ready to treat you like a queen will not be getting calls at 3 in the morning or even texting endlessly whilst you are on a date with him. You are his woman and he will not treat you like a groupie. But you also have a part to play. Instead of arguing with him, Sara should simply have removed herself from the equation. Arguing does not help with men. He will flip the script and mess with your emotions like Mr sweetheart did. Simply remove yourself form the equation and tell him to hola when he is over his ex but by then you would have moved on.
If you allow him to treat you this way by staying, you cannot complain when he carries on with his behaviour. Today it is hi ex, tomorrow his sister, the next day a co worker and before you know it is his whole sphere of women. A good man knows not to put his precious woman through this array of emotions to start with. He is straight up with you about who you are to him and shows you through ACTIONS not just words, just how much you mean to him. Even if you are in different countries, there is no excuse for him not to be romantic.
A friends fiance is in the states and she is in Zambia. He still sends her flowers. There is internet shopping now so he better get his A game with you or he can get to stepping.
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